If you’re going out with a girl, you may be wondering what the etiquette is for holding the door. In most scenarios, women will appreciate chivalrous gestures like this! While it’s not always necessary, it’s a nice touch. 

In this article, we’ll be going more in-depth on holding the door, and why it’s never a bad thing!

Why Holding the Door Open is a Nice Gesture

man holding the door for a woman

You may be wondering, “Why should I hold the door for a woman?”

Some people may see this as a demeaning gesture like you’re saying women can’t hold the door for themselves. However, this just isn’t true. 

Holding the door open for someone is a sign of respect. This is true if you’re doing it for a woman you’re going out with, a friend, or a complete stranger. In most cases, it’s just common courtesy. 

There’s nothing ruder than letting a door close on someone as you walk through it. This is especially true if you’re going out with them. Most women – and people in general – will appreciate having the door held for them. 

Also, small chivalrous gestures like this go a long way in relationships. This includes things like holding doors, walking on the edge of the sidewalk, or carrying a heavy bag. This shows your partner that you’re putting them first. 

Of course, if you have a partner who doesn’t appreciate things like this – listen to them! However, most women will appreciate a man who shows they care in this way. 

How to Hold the Door Open for a Woman

Now that we’ve covered why holding the door open is nice, let’s quickly go over how to do it right. 

First off, you shouldn’t run in front of a woman to hold a door for her. Especially on a first date, this can appear awkward and a little desperate. Instead, try to position yourself so you’re in front of her when you reach a door. This way, holding it open will appear completely natural. 

If you come across a pull door, simply step aside and allow her to enter first. For a push door quickly step inside and hold it open to allow her in after you. 

While you should try to hold doors open, don’t worry if your partner reaches the door in front of you. If you’re close enough, you can always reach above to assist her in pushing or pulling the door open. But, don’t try to force anything. At the end of the day, it’s not a big deal if she opens the door first. 

Also, this may go without saying, but don’t make a big deal about it! Holding the door should be natural for you. Just treat it like you’re holding the door for a stranger or friend. 

Conclusion

Holding the door is a small gesture, but it can go a long way. While it’s a subtle way to show someone you care about them, in most cases, it’s just a nice thing to do.