When your partner asks you to change your hairstyle it can lead to difficult conversations, especially if you disagree with them. It may also come as a bit of a shock to find out that they might not like how you currently style your hair. First things first, try not to get too offended and start an argument. Take a step back and read the following tips to help you work out what to do.
How Attached Are You To Your Current Style?
The most important point is that you are the one that needs to feel comfortable with your hair style. This does not mean to ignore how your partner feels, but confidence in your appearance can go a long way to making you happy. If your current hair style makes you feel great then you are perfectly within your rights to let your partner know that you don’t wish to change.
However, you may be holding on to a hair style that you had sought comfort in but is no longer making you feel as good as it once did. Perhaps you had a side swiped fringe that was once in style but has since been replaced by other styles. Or maybe you are slightly past your youth and your hair cut doesn’t reflect your age (not necessarily a bad thing!).
If you even have a little bit of curiosity or desire to explore different hairstyles then it’s certainly worth entertaining the idea further.
How Important is it to Your Partner?
There is a point where your hair style matters enough to your partner but not enough to you, that it is worth taking the leap and changing. But if your partner just mentioned it in a passing comment and it’s not actually that important to them then it’s probably not worth worrying too much about. But if you have taken the time to seek out this article then it’s probably at least a concern to seriously consider.
The best thing to do in this instance is to talk to your partner. Find out what they really think and how strongly they think it. This will help you to much better understand where they are coming from and what it means to them if you were to keep or change your hair style. Of course, you also need to let them know how you feel about the potential change, so be as open and honest as you can.
Do You Like The Styles Your Partner Likes?
If you reach an impasse in conversations, or you are at least open to considering changing your hair style, then it is worth discussing with your partner what type of hair styles they like. If they like guys with big blue spikey hair cuts and that’s not for you, then that will certainly impact your decision.
Sometimes your partner has very specific ideas in mind about what style they think would work for you and that is a great place to start the conversation. Try to be open minded about the styles they like and discuss different variations of them to see if you can come to a conclusion. Use Google images to search different styles and pick out which ones you’re referring to, this could keep you from getting confused when trying to explain a certain hair cut.
Ultimately if you don’t like what your partner likes then it’s likely not worth going through with it.
Compromise
Compromise is always the best solution in relationships. If you can’t agree on the type of style you like then look at some options in the middle. For example, if you have long hair and your partner wants you to shave it off into a buzz cut, maybe propose options where you still cut it short but get to keep a little bit of length to style.
If your partner is not open to compromising at all then that likely represents a deeper issue in the relationship. Your partner’s opinions are important but this is your look and your confidence, so you need to feel happy with the solution.
Remember That They Love You
It’s easy to forget in the heat of the moment that the reason they might suggest a change in hair cut is often because they love you and want to see you happy and trying new things. Your partner likely feels comfortable enough with you to suggest trying some new style ideas in a fun way, rather than a serious one, so it’s important to remember that.
Speak to a Hairdresser or Stylist
If you are still conflicted, speak to a hairdresser and ask them what styles they think will suit you. You don’t have to jump straight into a decision there and then but it can help you to feel confident in whatever you choose to do, because they may make suggestions based on your face shape and hair type that your partner may not have considered.
