A romantic relationship is meant to be a close partnership between two people. So, what do you do if your relationship is leaving you feeling lonely? We’ll be breaking down why a relationship may be making you lonely, and what you can do to fix it.
Why Do You Feel Lonely?
First, it’s important to recognize why exactly you’re feeling lonely in your relationship. Because there could be a few reasons, answering this will help you find a solution that works for you.
Are you in a long-distance relationship? Are you and your partner both busy? Is your partner distant, or do they have an avoidant attachment style?
Pinpointing this will decide what your next steps are, which we’ll be covering down below.
How to Feel Less Lonely With Your Partner?
Below we’ll be looking at three common reasons why you might feel lonely in a relationship. We’ll also be giving you some advice on how you can fix things.
Long-Distance Relationship
First, if you’re in a long-distance relationship, feeling lonely is completely normal. You may not be seeing your partner for months on end, which can put a huge toll on a relationship.
Consider how long you’re willing to maintain a long-distance relationship. Is there an end in sight, or is this a permanent situation?
If it’s permanent, understand that the loneliness may only get worse over time. If you’re unable to live closer to each other, your best option may be moving on.
Busy Lifestyles
Next, if you and your partner are both busy with work, kids, or anything else, you may not have much time for each other.
In this case, communicate your need for quality time with your partner. You may be able to rearrange your schedules to make more time for each other. Even a few hours a week dedicated to being with each other may make a huge difference in how you feel.
Avoidant Attachment Styles
Finally, your partner’s attachment style may be what’s making you feel lonely. If you’re unfamiliar, an avoidant attachment style involves feeling easily smothered. This may result in pushing away from their partners. As you can imagine, this may then leave the other person feeling lonely.
This can be tough to navigate, especially if you have a more anxious attachment style. However, if you and your partner both work on accommodating each other’s needs, you can find a balance here. We recommend attending couple’s therapy if this is something you struggle with.
Ultimately, if you’re unhappy with your partner’s attachment style, it may be best to break up. These usually aren’t issues that can be solved overnight. Ideally, you can find a partner with a healthier attachment style, so loneliness is less of an issue.
Conclusion
If you feel lonely in your relationship, there’s probably a pretty clear reason why. Some common reasons include distance, busy schedules, and mismatched attachment styles. Luckily, all of these problems have their solutions.
Perhaps have a relationship check in with your partner to figure out how they feel about everything and how they envision the relationship working going forward. Hopefully you’re able to move past this loneliness and feel happier in your relationship.
