Cheating is typically seen as someone having an affair outside of a relationship. However, even much smaller things may be defined as cheating by some people. These smaller violations of trust are often called “micro cheating.”

In this article, we’ll be going over what constitutes micro cheating, and what to do about it. This way, you can form your own definition of micro cheating, and set boundaries in your relationship accordingly. 

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Examples of Micro Cheating

Micro cheating can be tough to define, as no two relationships are the same. Some people may have stricter boundaries than others – and that’s ok. What’s important is knowing what you feel comfortable with, and effectively communicating this to your partner. 

Below are a few examples that could be seen as micro cheating. This includes your partner:

  • Dancing with other people at a club or party
  • Casually flirting with other people 
  • Accepting drinks from someone at a bar

While none of these things may be considered outright cheating, they may still make you uncomfortable. The tricky thing is that your partner may not view these things as a violation of your trust. This is why it’s so important to set boundaries, and communicate effectively with your partner. 

Setting Boundaries Surrounding Micro Cheating

First, it’s important to remember that trust is the foundation of all successful relationships. 

Understand that simply interacting with other people doesn’t constitute micro cheating, especially if your partner is generally outgoing and friendly. Recognize that what you see as micro cheating may just be jealousy. So, try your best to put faith in your partner and your relationship. 

If you notice your partner taking things a bit too far, it may be worth talking to them. Still, when talking about micro cheating, try not to accuse your partner of anything more serious. 

Instead, just try to make it clear that what they’re doing is making you uncomfortable. They most likely see their behavior as harmless fun and don’t know how it makes you feel. 

While you shouldn’t try to control your partner’s behavior, it’s ok to set boundaries. If your partner truly cares about you, they should be willing to reassure you and make changes to make you more comfortable. 

However, when bringing up these issues, your partner may get defensive or dismissive. This may be a sign that your partner knows they’re doing something wrong, or that they’re doing more behind your back. This lack of reassurance can be difficult, especially if you’re feeling anxious about your relationship. 

Unfortunately, it can be difficult to make a relationship work if you don’t fully trust your partner. In some cases, it may be best to move on from your relationship, and find a partner who you feel is more trustworthy. With this being said, try to recognize where these feelings are simply jealousy as well. 

Conclusion

Understand that everyone will have different definitions of micro cheating. While you should communicate your boundaries with your partner, try not to let jealousy define your relationship. At a certain point, you need to trust your partner isn’t cheating on you. If you can’t do this, it may be a sign that the relationship isn’t meant to last.