If your partner wants to be with you all of the time and you don’t feel the same, it’s usually a problem that can be worked out. Everybody is different and have different needs for how much time they spend together vs apart. In this article we’ll take a look at how to approach the problem and what to do if they’re not receptive.
If you also want to be with your partner all of the time then there shouldn’t be much of a problem. In that instance you should enjoy being in love, but make sure not to neglect any of your friends, family or other commitments. But, similar to your partner wanting to talk on the phone all the time or just generally talking too much, you might feel overwhelmed and like you need your space.
Talk to Them

First things first is to have a proper chat with your partner and let them know about your preferred balance of spending time together vs apart. Many people need their own downtime away from other people in order to re-energize, that’s not a bad thing and doesn’t mean that you don’t love them. It just means that you want to be on good form when you do see them, rather than tired and sluggish.
Alternatively you might be feeling that the relationship is going too quick and you want to pace things out a little bit. This can be especially important if you have been burned before by a relationship that went too fast. Again, be completely honest with your partner in this instance. Your feelings are perfectly legitimate and aren’t a reflection of how you feel about them.
Your Partner is Too Clingy
Clinginess is a slightly different issue in that they may have some issues with boundaries and are perhaps constantly asking for reassurance. A partner being clingy is usually a sign that they are insecure in themselves and/or in the relationship. They may also have low self esteem and might be worried about losing you if they don’t see you.
Clinginess is an important issue to resolve as soon as possible, especially if you want to be with them but it is affecting your relationship or personal mood.
Talk to your partner about their clinginess in a sensitive way, ensuring to make sure that they know it doesn’t mean you don’t love them, but that you wish to have normal boundaries. You should also make sure to let them know how their clinginess makes you feel and how you think things could be improved.
You’re Not Ready to Commit

If you are concerned about your partner wanting to be with you all the time because you aren’t ready to commit to them and/or you would still like to see other people, then that’s another issue entirely. You don’t have to be ready to fully commit to a relationship straight away, and it’s often somewhat of a fairytale myth that “you just know”, but you do need to talk to your partner about it.
Things take time and that is perfectly acceptable, your partner shouldn’t push you to commit too much at the beginning of a relationship but you should make sure that you don’t leave them waiting too long to know how you feel about committing to them.
If you are wanting to still see other people and play the field a little more then you absolutely should let your partner know as soon as possible. You might also be interested in having a polyamorous relationship and this is also perfectly normal, but it’s important that you don’t lead your partner along thinking that they are getting into a committed monogamous relationship.
Again, the answer is to talk to your partner and let them know your wants and needs. You might find out that they have the same feelings, or that they are open to a monogamous relationship if you are. But even if they are not happy then at least you know that you have been truthful and you’ve not left them wondering why you are wanting time apart.
They are Controlling
If your partner wants to be with you all of the time because they are controlling and jealous, then this is a major issue that you need to resolve. Controlling behavior in a relationship can be worked through, especially if they are open to changing. Professional help such as therapy can help your partner to realize the problems with how they have been approaching the relationship, but just reaching that point can be very difficult.
Be direct, open and honest with your partner that you think that their behavior is not healthy in a relationship. If you are keen to stay with them, then be sure to let them know that they should feel secure in your relationship even when you are not together. If controlling behavior from a partner is starting to affect your mental or physical health and they are not open to change, you should seriously consider ending the relationship.
If They Don’t Respond Well

If you make very reasonable points to your partner about how much time you spend together, then hopefully they should respond quite well. Especially if you have made sure to let them know that it’s not a question of how much you love or value them.
However, there is a good chance that they won’t respond well, whether that’s due to a fairly surprising request such as being with other people, or a reasonable one that they have taken offence to. Not everyone is rational when it comes to relationships and their feelings, so they might feel upset if they interpret it as meaning you’re not feeling like you’re all-in on the relationship for example.
These types of responses are normal and if you do wish to stay together then you may have to reassure them. If your partner is consistently irrational and refuses to take your feelings seriously then that is not a healthy relationship and it may be time to have a more serious talk or consider breaking up.