While intimacy comes naturally to some couples, it can be difficult for others. If you’re struggling to be intimate with your partner, it might be time to try some exercises to work on it. We’ll also be looking at why you might be struggling with intimacy so you can address the root of the problem. Let’s get into it!
Why is Intimacy a Struggle for you?
Before getting into exercises, consider why intimacy is something you struggle with. This can help you decide what you need to address and find some exercises that work for you.
Consider whether intimacy has always been an issue for you, or if this is a more recent problem. Perhaps you feel lonely in the relationship and therefore unable to fully feel close with your partner.
Do you struggle with intimacy because of larger, unresolved issues? In this case, talking with a therapist may be your best option. This can be a great way to work on yourself and become more open to intimacy.
Maybe your issues stem from busy schedules and a lack of communication instead. In this case, setting aside some time to reconnect with the following exercises may be all you need.
Intimacy Exercises to Try With Your Partner
The only way you’ll be able to promote intimacy with your partner is if you set aside the time to work on it.
First, find a time when both of you are free, with no commitments. Maybe you can take a short vacation together to work on intimacy. Even just spending a romantic evening together can be enough. While it can be hard to find the time, spending quality time together is crucial for intimacy.
When you have this time together, try talking about your struggles with intimacy. This will give you and your partner an open forum to figure out any potential issues and work them out together. Talking with each other about your needs is the best way to promote deep intimacy with each other.
This communication should help you feel more comfortable with each other. From here, you can begin to try some more physical intimacy exercises.
A great place to start is with eye contact and breathing exercises. You can also try massaging each other to connect on a physical level. Of course, these exercises aren’t for everybody. Still, they may help you and your partner feel more connected to each other. So, experiment to see what works for you.
Whatever exercise you end up choosing, open communication is the most important piece here. This will lay the groundwork for deeper physical communication.
Conclusion
Overall, to foster intimacy, we recommend starting with some self-reflection. Consider what you and your partner struggle with, and whether you need to work on yourself first.
From here, set aside some time to connect. Begin by communicating openly, slowly moving on to more physical connection. Give yourself plenty of time together. Start with communication before moving on to physical touch. This will help you feel much more intimate with each other as a whole.