If your wife is verbally abusive, do your best to speak up and seek help. Although 1 in every 3 victims of domestic abuse is a man, only half of these men ever tell anybody. Because domestic violence against men is stigmatized, it may be difficult to open up. Many men might feel trapped in the relationship due to other factors such as relying on them financially or having children together. Help and support are always available, whether it’s in the form of friends and family or a support line.
In this article, we’ll be covering how to find support, and how to talk to your wife about her behavior. While you shouldn’t tolerate abuse in any form, whether that’s verbal or physical abuse, your wife may not be aware that she’s being abusive. By expressing how you feel, you may be able to resolve the issue and move forward.
Help Is Available
Note that while we can give general advice, we won’t be able to help in the same way a trained professional would. We recommend that you seek professional help immediately if you’re experiencing abuse. Contact your local domestic violence hotline for support.
How to Find Support
Abuse is serious, regardless of who it’s happening to. The only way to destigmatize being a victim of domestic abuse in all its forms is to seek help.
Consider opening up to friends or family you feel comfortable with. They can provide support and a possible place to stay if you don’t feel comfortable being with your partner.
If you’re not comfortable opening up to someone you know yet, there are plenty of resources available. By searching “Domestic Abuse Hotline,” you can find local resources offering immediate help. Most of these resources will be 100% anonymous in case you’re worried about sharing your identity.
How to Talk to Your Partner
Try to choose a time when your partner is calm, and seems open to talking. This will be the best time to have a difficult discussion with them.
Hopefully, your partner will be willing to hear you out and talk things through. It’s possible that they aren’t aware of how their words affect you, and that they don’t mean to hurt you. While you should hold them accountable for their actions, you may be able to work out a solution together. Regardless, it’s a good idea to seek professional help for support moving forward.
It’s worth noting that trying to talk with a verbally abusive partner may be pointless. They may attempt to belittle your emotions instead of having a productive conversation.
If this is the case, you should feel no obligation to continue the conversation. If you can’t resolve the issue, you may need to move on from the relationship. We strongly recommend seeking professional help to figure out a solution.
Conclusion
If your wife is verbally abusive to you, we need to stress the importance of seeking help. Abuse is complicated and isolating in all its forms. Whether it’s friends, family, or an abuse hotline, help is available. Try your best to create a support system so you know you’re never alone.
