If your partner always wants to fight, it can be hard to know why. Without knowing the details of your relationship, it’s impossible to say why you’re fighting. Still, today we’ll be trying our best to help you get to the root of the problem.
While fighting is a normal part of any relationship, it shouldn’t be happening all the time. So, hopefully, you can figure this problem out and resolve it.
What’s Causing the Fights?
Before bringing this issue up with your partner, take a moment to consider what’s causing the fighting.
- Is this level of fighting normal for you, or has it been happening more recently?
- Are there pre-existing issues you’re trying to work through?
- Do either of you have any bad habits putting a strain on your relationship?
- Is it just a stressful time in your life with work or other family members?
Whatever the reason is, try figuring out some of the root problems in your relationship. These issues will be much easier to talk about once they’ve been addressed.
Take some time to reflect on these questions, and plan what you want to say to your partner. This will help lead to a more meaningful and open conversation than if you go in unprepared.
Remember, it’s never ok for your partner to physically hit you or to be verbally abusive. In those instances, you should look for professional domestic abuse advice to make sure you are safe in your relationship as a bare minimum.
Talking with Your Partner
While it’s good to reflect, the only way to stop fighting with your partner is to talk things through.
Try to find a time when you’re both relaxed and in a good mood. It will lead to a more productive conversation if tempers aren’t already flaring. By addressing the issue head-on, you can avoid letting your emotions get the better of you.
Tell your significant other that you think you’re fighting too much and that you want to resolve your issues. Talk about why you think you’re fighting so much, and ask her to share her opinions too.
Remember that both your feelings are valid. You should both actively be listening to the issues the other brings up.
This probably won’t be easy, especially if communication has broken down between you. If you can’t get anywhere, consider couples therapy as a way to support communication.
Show your partner that you’re willing to put in the effort to work things through. Still, understand that any relationship is a two-way street. If you’re the only one trying to make things better, that’s not a great sign for your future.
If your partner wants to break up after every fight or you are noticing the signs that they may be thinking about leaving you, then it might be time to call it quits.
Try your best to work things through, but understand that not all relationships are meant to last. If you can’t find a solution, you may both be happier going your separate ways. Although it’s painful, this may be your best choice.
Conclusion
While the occasional fight is no reason to worry, a relationship should be more than arguing. Try your best to resolve any underlying issues with your partner and find common ground.
Remember, if you’re both willing to put in the work, there aren’t many issues you can’t get through.
